Oh Valentines.. A day I used to simply refer to as VD. Considering many of my romantic relationships have been recurring and painful it always seemed fitting. This Valentine’s Day though.. I am not feeling so jaded. As my good friend Jamey likes to say “I forgive everybody!” And that includes me. Being free of resentments and humbuggery I am fully available to enjoy the love in the air. To celebrate I got up early, made pancakes and hung out with Jarvis Cocker - on the stereo - I’m sure he’s tucked away somewhere brilliant with his girlfriend today. I danced around the kitchen and sipped hot cocoa in my sweats after a good work out. This is love. I am in it. I know today is traditionally about romantic love but that feels a little limiting. After all. it comes in so many other flavors. They need a little recognition too. For example - the Greeks recognized 7 types of love and I applaud them for their differentiation.
Eros is what they called Romantic love. Philia, intimate authentic friendship - where would we be without this?! They referred to playful flirtatious love as Ludus and Storge was considered unconditional or familial. They called self love Philautia. Funny story about that- the first time I ever saw this word I read it as “fellatio” and I laughed little harder than was maybe warranted but.. considering that falling too far in love with ones self could result in narcissism.. it’s fitting - no? Anyway. Pragma is that decades long committal stuff and Agape was what they saw to be the highest form of love. The kind of love they believed god feels (felt?) for all of us here on earth. I like to think of this more as selfless, charitable or maybe the stuff that ‘I forgive everybody!’ is made of.
I’ve got some cozy philautia vibes going on over here. Just reveling in and loving on myself. I mean it’s well below freezing outside - could their be a better time to get wrapped up in myself? Since champagne is the traditional beverage of the day I picked up a bottle of sparkling kefir. It’s non alcoholic, is great for your guts and ultimately your mood. Sexy.
What kind of love are you feeling today and what are you doing to celebrate? Tell me all about it below.
Breakfast today.. Grain Free pancakes topped with yogurt, bananas, bloobs, cocoa nibs and walnuts. I picked up some grain free pancake mix made by Simply Elizabeth.. they were good but my gawd! They did not want to spread or flip or rise or cook all the way through. I finally got the hang of it but this is no beginners pancake. You have been warned. I will be attempting my own grain free mix next time around.
